the author of the article also asked this question, but i'm very curious, so i'm going to pose it as well:
What do you not share on social media or your blog? Is it
because things feel to personal & private, or too negative or
boring?
Pages
Thursday, January 17, 2013
what no one's talking about on social media
i came across this article from IBF the other day via breanna rose and i was immediately immersed in it. i've talked in the past about how much i want to share on this blog, that it's important to be yourself and that i feel it is important to be real and relatable. i get that people want to put their best foot forward and "not be a downer" but i also think that the support that you can receive from your friends & readers really knows no bounds. whether it's out of fear or insecurity that people don't share the harder parts of their lives, i don't know, but no one's life is perfect, mine certainly isn't. but that's what's so great about being real; others will be real right back.
the author of the article also asked this question, but i'm very curious, so i'm going to pose it as well:
the author of the article also asked this question, but i'm very curious, so i'm going to pose it as well:
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
My general rule on privacy is universal no matter the audience. If the platform is personal but public ie: the days of online journalling I feel that this is still in essence my sanctuary and though some are allowed to view they can't condemn.
ReplyDeleteEverything else: social media especially I apply the same rule I do to my friends and family. There are very few things I am obligated to share about MY life. It's never a case of what will they judge it as (boring, negative etc) it's always a case of - I don't OWE any and everyone all the details of my life.
I share what I feel like sharing with who I want to.
I usually ask, does this person NEED to know this, will it affect their life dramtically to know? Because of social media I find that society demands to know - right now - about things that aren't even relevant to the average individual's life.
But that's just me.
I'm little miss penny party-pooper
cuqui - first of all, how did i not know that you were blogging again?!
Deletesecondly, i completely agree that while i post on a blog, it is my sanctuary and while people are allowed to see it, they can't condemn. so very true. i'm sick of people who say: if you post it publicly you are welcoming people to criticize you. um, ok, sure.
hmmm. good question!
ReplyDeletewhen I started blogging, in a round about way, I only ever considered Isla to be my audience - it was the easiest "baby book" I could muster, that tumblr blog was n' is. I guess, because of that, I'm pretty careful about what I share because, no matter how old we get, there are things about our parents' lives — individually + as a couple — we never want to know. my mum, for example posted "date night" as her status update the other day + I blushed, all "MO-OM, why you gotta say that!? ew!." by contrast, she would never tell me details about arguments her + my dad might have, even if it's just about what to have for dinner, because it's between them.
sometimes I wonder about this very thing which is probably why it's been 90% photos as of late, but then I consider what my end goal of blogging is which is an archive for Isla. let's face it. the Internet doesn't forget a dang thing.
it just depends what you're "selling"... for example, I was *devastated* when I ran into Martha Stewart herself in Central Park one November. I still can't get over the fact she wasn't hand basting a turkey at home for a table of eager guests. *womp womp* dream shattered. or when fashion bloggers post all these outfits + you find out they return all the items a few days later. if you're blogging to give the impression of one thing, but it's a whole different story behind the scenes, that's a problem. but if you're quiet about certain topics, I think that's okay. that's the beauty of a URL. you can share whatcha like :)
xo
wait, fashion bloggers return the outfits a few days later? do they really do that? i'm pretty sure that i just had what could be equated to your martha stewart moment. me oh my.
Deletei always kind of think of blogging as a visual journal of sorts, but then i also remind myself that i have been keeping actual journals since, oh, 1991-1992? why do i need them in two places? where i'm at now is more: i need the creative outlet of blogging!
thanks for commenting lady!
Thanks for posting this link! I just started blogging a year-ish ago, and never mind trying to figure out what I should and shouldn't share...it took me forever to figure out which "niche" I identified with. Now that I've figured out that the best way to blog is to blog about what you know, I've realized that what I know is...my life. And I think my life is interesting enough to share with others. The problem for me, now, is exactly this: figuring out what to share and what not to share. People who know me "in real life" know that I have 3 kids, but that only 2 live with me. People who don't know me "in real life" (and haven't read this) just know that I have 3 kids and likely assume they all live with me.
ReplyDeleteThere is A LOT I want to blog about -- to be cathartic, to inform others, to let other mothers without custody of their child(ren) know they aren't along -- but I'm terrified of putting anything on my blog that a juvenile custody court judge might use against me. I want to be honest about my past and share it with others, but I don't want to do that if it's going to cost me my child.
I'm a happy person, but I'm definitely no stranger to complaining and whining and having unhappy thoughts and moments, and just last weekend, actually, I decided that I'm going to be more intentional about sharing those real moments on my little baby blog, and this post was just a re-affirmation that I'm heading in the right direction.